Tomodachi Life: What to Do When Miis Will Not Make Up After a Fight

When a fight happens in Tomodachi Life, start with these three checks.

Right after a fight, the Mii is still too angry to talk normally.

Do not think of the apology as the first step. Calm the Mii down first. Once the anger drops, the Mii may ask to make up or apologize.

If the other Mii accepts the apology, the relationship recovers.

If you are not sure what state your Miis are in, start with this checklist.

The three states that usually feel most urgent are refused apologies, "I do not want to see them", and ex-friends.

They are bad signs, but they do not always mean the relationship is permanently over. Time passing and other events can still move the relationship.

If a making-up attempt fails and the sadness meter disappears but the Mii still does not recover, or if relationship events feel stuck, check whether the game is on the latest version.

Nintendo update notes have included fixes related to failed fight reconciliation and sadness not clearing correctly.

• A bug where a failed reconciliation after a fight could cause a crush on another Mii to disappear
• A bug where a Mii could fail to recover from sadness even after the sadness meter was gone

Because of that, "I cannot make them up" or "sadness will not go away" may not always be a player-action problem. An older software version can also matter.

On Nintendo Switch, highlight the software on the HOME menu, press +, and check Software Update.

Ver.1.0.3 was distributed on June 26, 2026. This page uses Ver.1.0.3 as its baseline as of June 29, 2026.

• Nintendo Support: Ver.1.0.2 update data Lists fixes related to failed reconciliation and sadness behavior.
• Nintendo Support: Ver.1.0.3 update data Update data distributed on June 26, 2026.

Fights happen through everyday resident conversations and relationship events.

They can happen not only between Miis who get along badly, but also between good friends, best friends, sweethearts, and spouses. Close relationships create more contact, so you may see more events between those Miis.

A fight does not automatically mean the two Miis are incompatible or about to break up.

However, failed apologies or long neglect can make the relationship worse. If the relationship matters to you, step in when you see the red bubble.

• Nintendo official page: Tomodachi Collection Waku Waku Life The official page presents relationships, serious fights, and making up as part of the game experience.

For a normal fight, the basic flow is simple.

First, look for the Mii with the red bubble.

A fighting Mii is often in their room, but depending on the time and current activity, they may be in another place or facility. If you cannot find them, wait a little and check the island again.

An angry Mii usually cannot move straight into making up.

Use actions that raise satisfaction, such as food, clothing, interiors, treasures, or travel. If you know a favorite food, it can help calm the Mii faster.

There is no single guaranteed item for every Mii and every situation. Think of it as raising mood and lowering anger until the Mii is ready to talk.

After the anger settles, the Mii may ask to make up or apologize.

If you support the request, the Mii goes to apologize. If the other Mii accepts, making up succeeds.

After success, the relationship may return normally, or it may still feel a little awkward. If the pair matters, keep an eye on them afterward.

The most stressful result is when the other Mii refuses to forgive.

In that case, the Mii who apologized may become sad. This still does not always mean the relationship is completely finished.

After a refused apology, watch both Miis, not only the one who became sad.

Player reports suggest that the Mii who refused can later ask to make up after all.

Do not assume one refusal locks the relationship forever. Recover sadness, then watch the pair over minutes, hours, or even several days of play.

A serious fight is riskier than a normal fight.

The angry presentation is stronger, and the two Miis may be harder to reconcile directly.

Serious fights may be difficult for the two Miis to solve by themselves.

If a mutual friend or a Mii close to one side can mediate, use that chance. Best friends and close friends are especially useful as mediators.

If it does not resolve immediately, recover sadness and wait for later requests or events.

If a fight gets worse, the relationship may move into an ex-friend, awkward, or "I do not want to see them" type of state.

That looks serious, but it is not always permanent.

Even if the relationship does not fully recover at once, relationships in Tomodachi Life can keep changing over time.

Sometimes one Mii helping another during a problem event can improve the relationship a little.

Right after they become ex-friends, repeatedly forcing contact may not help. Clear sadness first, then give the game time to move.

Sweethearts and spouses can fight too.

A fight by itself does not mean they will immediately break up.

Still, because those relationships are important, failed apologies can feel more damaging.

For favorite couples or spouses, there is little upside to ignoring the fight for a long time.

If an "I do not want to see them" type of request appears, the relationship may already be in a bad state. If you do not want them to split, choose the reconsider option when the game offers it.

A fight can sometimes settle naturally if you leave it alone.

That does not mean waiting is always safe. You may miss a making-up chance, the relationship may stay awkward, or it may move toward an ex-friend state.

For unimportant pairs, waiting a little can be reasonable.

• You do not want to spend items right now
• The fighting Miis are not important to your island story
• You want to watch what happens
• You cannot find the angry Mii yet

The more important the relationship is, the safer it is to act when you see the red bubble.

• Sweethearts or spouses are fighting
• Your favorite Miis are fighting
• It has become a serious fight
• A refusal to forgive has already happened
• The relationship may be heading toward "I do not want to see them"

As a general rule, if you care about the pair, handle the red bubble sooner rather than later.

The same two Miis may fight several times.

That is not automatically a bug. Good friends, sweethearts, spouses, and best friends interact often, so they can also generate more conversation events and trouble events.

If your island has a small social network, the same pair may interact repeatedly and make fights more visible.

You cannot remove fights entirely, but a wider social network gives you more possible mediators and more event variety.

• Add more Miis
• Broaden friendship lines
• Create mutual friends
• Do not leave sadness or bad moods unattended
• Keep the software updated

Sometimes a Mii says they want to make up, but you cannot find the other Mii.

Check these places first.

• Your room
• The other Mii room
• A friend room
• Facilities
• The plaza or outdoor areas
• The same places again after time passes

Miis move around the island, so a Mii who is not in one place now may return later.

If you cannot find them right away, solve another problem first or check again after a few minutes.

Fights are part of Tomodachi Life relationship events.

Red bubbles and serious fights can look alarming, but the basic flow is: lower anger, support making up, and if it fails, recover sadness and wait for another chance.

Here is the short version.

If your Miis are fighting right now, start by visiting the angry Mii room and calming them down.

Even after one failed apology, the relationship may still have another chance. Watch the next request or event before giving up.